I think this process happens with age because it is enabled by self awareness. The more we understand how we operate, the nature of our personality and the traits from our conditioning, the easier it becomes to see them for what they are – attributes, habits, coping mechanisms layered over our essence.
This is not a mistake or an error on our part; it is how we play out the human experience. These traits and attributes are what differentiates us, one from the other, what makes us interesting and unique in our human flavor.
The Camino reveals us to ourselves and in that revelation, if we are most lucky, we find acceptance of ourselves. The acceptance is key because once that comes the fight stops, the battle with our self is over, and we unclench our fists and wait. In God’s time, always God’s time, we begin the journey home to that which we have always been.